Guy comes to pick me up. He takes me skating on this little pond at a park right below the Logan temple. Then he takes me back to his Apartment and makes me an amazing dinner. We played a couple of games with his roommate and his date when they got home. I won every game!
He picks me up we go to Wendy's and order off the dollar menu. We go to a huge pet store and spend an hour or more just looking around. Finally we went to a hockey game where I froze and he cheered like crazy for the opposing team. We went back to his place and ate apple jacks from the bag and watched British TV.
So the question is which one of these dates is the best date of my life and which is the worst?
#1 was the worst. The guy had watched me fall on the ice all night and never offered to help me up. Our dinner at his place was awkwardly quiet. And he would get really mad when I would win the games we played. When he dropped me off at the end of the night I said thanks and booked it back to my apartment. He had to sit there while his roommate kissed his date goodnight.
#2 was the best. I loved my Jr. Bacon Cheeseburger, and he loved all like 8 of his. I loved that he could be himself with me. On great dates I am normally too happy and excited to eat much anyway and I didn't have to feel bad about it. He could tease me too. He would say things like "I think I can splurge for one more burger," or "You are hot enough to eat two you know." When we went to the pet store he could "protect" me from the snakes and spiders and junk but at the same time show his sweet side when he fell in love with a puppy. I always freeze at hockey games but I don't ever want to wear a sweatshirt (he brought one for me) because I want to be attractive. So that is my own dumb fault. And it's cool he cheered for the other team. It was his alma mater and they were the home team. I loved it that he was enjoying the game as much as me. Finally I love British TV and that things were comfortable enough that we could end the night really by just doing a lot of nothing.
The difference really wasn't in the choice of activities. Scenario #1 really seems much more romantic, and was certainly much more expensive. Dates don't have to be about spending money. They should be about getting to know each other. About seeing if you are compatible when it's just the two of you. And heavens I don't want you to spend a fortune on me. If dating is an interview for eternity then it would be more reassuring to know you are wise with your money. There are so many things you can do without spending any money. Going for a walk is one of my favorites. You can go on a Sunday walk, a hike, a walk downtown and window shop, walk around a flea market, or just your neighborhood.
The other big difference in these dates was the level in which I felt he cared about me. The first guy didn't want to be a gentleman, he didn't want to get to know me, and he couldn't stop thinking about himself enough to be okay with me winning a game. It left me wondering why he even asked.